Is the Grass Always Greener?

So, I once used to look enviously upon "happy" couples, and married people and think it must be nice to "have somebody." Now as part of one of those "happy" couples all I can really say is that I miss the independence and simplicity of my single life. Yes, in some ways my life now is less complex for example I know what I am going on Friday/Saturday nights and with whom but in almost every other way coupledom is much more complicated.

For example, the simple act of buying and installing a ceiling fan. Before I would have gone to the store looked at the fans and picked one out I liked. The main problem would have been how to install it since as a single woman I have neither the arm strength nor the ladder required to put it up. But more than likely I would have called my sister or one of my friends and we would have put it up. More recently, a ceiling fan purchase for two rooms took a lot of negotiation on which fan matches, if it was too girly, how low to hang it, and what size fan was appropriate for the room. Then came the long process of installation in which I was talked to like someone who had never fixed or assembled something herself and ended with a big argument over if I had properly balanced the ceiling fan. I realize how silly this all sounds but it really does make me long for the good old days in which I was the sole dictator of what happened in my life. . . consensus can sometimes be painful and over-rated.

Now, there are also advantages. . .someone to take care of you when you are sick, to cook dinner when you are too tired. . .ect. Anyways it is much easier to see the pluses and minuses once you have been on both sides.