Why you shouldn't take City Girls fishing or bowling

Ok, so I finally have to admit it. I am a city girl. I keep trying to tell myself I am not but I am. I do love the outdoors. But mostly I love the outdoors as a contrast to the rest of my life which is filled with computers, books, TVs, and fluorescent lighting. My general problem as a "city girl" or at least a "suburb girl" is that I generally lack the knowledge (despite being a Girl Scout for many of my formative years) to deal with some of the particular problems of outdoor settings. . .at least to preplan dealing with them without warning.

This last summer I had a disastrous date when invited to go fishing. I was initially excited to go. I love to be outdoors and spending time on the water and learning to do new things so it seemed like a great idea. But as my friend "H" recently declared I am too pretty for camping. I am not too pretty for camping but I am too pretty for hanging my half naked body off the side of a boat to go pee. Some things are just not things I need to experience to know I won't like them and this is one of those things.

I mistakenly had worn a one piece bathing suit thinking this was an athletic activity and therefore a bikini was inappropriate turns out a one piece even less appropriate since it would then involve getting all naked or wetting my pants in order to go to the bathroom. After seeing bait fish after bait fish pulled out of the water bit in half by a shark I also was clearly not jumping into the water to relieve my strained bladder . . .so I ended up being taken back to the dock to go. This was not a popular idea with said date/boat driver but he gave in after seeing the pain on my face. We never went out again. . .I can't say I am upset.

The bowling thing while less objectionable is still a serious problem for me . . .I hate it. The rented shoes with someone else's foot sweat, the rolling of large objects down a wooden lane where the result seems almost more dependent on brute force than skill, and being surrounded by red-necks who this is their idea of a "big" night out. I was dragged bowling last night. . .it was painful and not any fun despite plenty of beer. I came home feeling ridiculed for performing bad, soar from hurling a heavy object, head aching from all the cigarette smoke I inhaled and all the poorly constructed sentence I heard uttered, and annoyed that I should be expected to participate. . .Bowling=BAD DATE.

And Now for Something Different. .

I am back at my old job and let's face it a little lacking things to do. . .so I will be blogging a lot more. Today I chose to take a break from discussing my relationship and instead decided to do somethng fun. . .take a test to see which sec in the city girl I was most like. . .I always fancied myself a cross between Carrie and Miranda with a touch of Charlotte but apparently I am most like Carrie. . .Results and link to the test below.

You Are Most Like Carrie!
You're quirky, flirty, and every guy's perfect first date.But can the guy in question live up to your romantic ideal?It's tough for you to find the right match - you're more than a little picky.Never fear... You've got a great group of friends and a great closet of clothes, no matter what!Romantic prediction: You'll fall for someone this year...Totally different from any guy you've dated.

http://ynr.blogthings.com/whichsexandthecityvixenareyouquiz/

Vegas?!!

So I admit it I am more than a little freaked out . . ."E", aka my boyfriend, has for the last week or so been joking that he should just whisk me off to Vegas to elope. NOT FUNNY. I know I have commitment issues but come on now. The idea of marrying someone I have only known for a couple of months . . .Is enough to make me run for the hills and not look back.

Especially since said boyfriend recently gave me a picture frame for my birthday. . .Thanks for the present you usually give your grandmother or mother. . .Very romantic. Yes, I know he was trying and I know that his original plans for my birthday fell through. . .Since he found out it was something I didn't want and wouldn't enjoy. Sometimes I wish he wouldn't try so hard . . .I wish he would just relax and quit trying so hard to make me happy. . .I know this sounds silly. I should be thrilled to have a boyfriend who only wants to make me happy but is it really OK that making me happy requires a "special" effort. I don't want to date someone who is always walking on egg shells trying to keep me happy.

I guess this is why I have always tended toward the alpha males. . .They do what they want and don't give a damn if it makes you happy or not.

On Boyfriends. . .

So, I have spent most of my adult life either with a boyfriend or in pursuit of one. . .I am wondering if it is the getting or the having that is more fun. They both have advantages and drawbacks.

Advantages of Getting Stage: rush of uncertainty, excitement, the excitement over the new and the possible, the excitement of a good first date, the nice complements paid to you during the wooing, and the attention

Disadvantages of Getting Stage: uncertainty, self-doubt, the amount of time required to weed out the duds from the OK from the really good, scary and painfully bad first dates, extra time required to be extra cute all the time, lack of sleep since I tend to start my days early and most other people don't, fear of rejection

Advantages of the Having Stage: someone to come home to, someone to call, someone to celebrate your birthday with, quiet moments when you don't have to talk, not having to worry about being adorable all the time, someone to go places with, someone to tell bad jokes to, and someone to kiss good night, someone to take care of you when you need it

Disadvantages of the Having Stage: you never go out anymore, no reason to get dressed up, no surprises, everything becomes a routine, you have to worry about someone else's feelings, when they are sick you have to take care of them and pretend you don't mind, you have to tell them it will be ok . . .Even if you don't believe it, you have to listen to their opinion about your life

There are additional disadvantages. . .But I don't want to make the list too long lest I never enter into a relationship again. Besides some of these things seem smaller at times . . .Perhaps I am just not in relationship mode right now. . .Which is problematic since I am "in" a relationship. Which most of the time is OK. . .Not great not wonderful but not intolerable. . .I feel like I do when I know I really want something to eat and I don't quite know what and end up eating a little bit of everything in the house and still know I haven't found what I want even though I don't know what that is.